Maria Dubaber: The Invisible Bridge - When Your Body Starts Buggin' Out and No One Notices 🤯

Look, I got this post that was mad heavy. It talks about when Mom starts changing—not like a quick outfit change, but a whole life-shift—and everyone's fronting like they don't see the struggle. The woman who holds everything together is undergoing a major, unavoidable, and often difficult transformation, and she's struggling with it.

We’re talking about the night sweats that got you schvitzing even when it's brick out, and that feeling like you're carrying the whole 6 train on your back. Your memory’s shorting out, the tears are falling for no deadass reason, and your body is like, "Nah, son, we're done with the old chapter." ✋

Real Talk: It Isn’t ‘Drama,’ It’s an Upgrade.

The worst part? They get the side eye and whisper: "She's bugging," "It's just her age." Fuhgeddaboudit! No one asks for this chaos. "Stop judging me and telling me to 'get over it.' This chaotic physical and emotional struggle is not something I chose; I'm dealing with it the best I can."

But here’s the drop: it’s not “unbearable,” it's TRANSFORMATION. Your body is doing a massive, difficult schlep across a "Láthatatlan Híd"—an Invisible Bridge. It is a huge, critical journey that happens completely out of sight and without recognition. You’re building from the woman you were to the Wise Woman you're about to beast into. It's an internal construction zone, and you're the main contractor. 👷‍♀️

Time to Pop Off: Making the Invisible Visible

The problem is, you're walking this bridge all aggravated and alone, cause nobody in this city wants to admit they’re aging out of the "all that and a bag of chips" phase.

But we aren’t doing' that no more! That poem said the fairy brought the light herself, so grab your own damn light! ✨

Here's how we fix this situation, friend:

1.         Stop Grilling' Yourself: That anxiety? That’s the engine of change firing up. It's gucci to be tired. "It's okay to be tired."  "It's all good, you're fine being tired." You're not defective; you’re leveling up.

2.         Use the Humor as Your Bev: Yeah, you forgot why you walked into the room. Laugh it off! Humor is your drink—your bev—for this whole crazy ride.

3.         Holler for Help: Real talk, you need a team. A good doctor, a friend, and a therapist. Don't wait for someone to ask, "You good?"

Tell them what's up and what you need.

You don't gotta wait for permission to be seen.

You deserve an embrace, someone to look you deadass in the eye, and tell you:

"I gotchu, kid. You are NOT alone." I am here, I see you, I believe you, and you don't have to carry this heavy load by yourself. 🤝

If this post hits you where you live, link up! Drop a comment, shoot me a DM. Let’s make this invisible bridge LIT! 🔥

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Maria Dubaber

Visual therapist, Educator